I have to say that this time round, the first things I thought of when I found out I was pregnant, was: how will my son cope with the news? Will he be happy? Does he want a sibling? Will he be jealous?
Even though he had randomly said he would like a brother on occasion, I didn’t know if he meant it, or if he would even really understand.
I was surprised and delighted by his reaction when we gave him the news, but also at his constant and continued enthusiasm. I thought he would have grown bored of waiting by now, but every day he continues to talk to the baby and about the baby (or my bump), I think it is constantly on his mind, which I find very surprising.
His enthusiasm has been a delight, here are a few examples of what he has done or said recently:
“Baby, look at me, now this is how you brush your teeth” (He then brushed his teeth in front of my bump).
“Mummy move the blanket off your tummy, the baby can’t see the movie”.
“Mummy make sure you eat lots of carrots so that the baby can see in your tummy.”
Nate: “I want to buy a Batman lunch box for my brother, one for home and one for nursery”
Me: “But what if its a sister?”
Nate: “Then she can have a Batgirl lunch box”
Then we had our 20 week scan, Nate came along as he was so excited to find out if he had a brother. When we told him he has a sister, I could not believe how gracious he was, and how his clever little brain reacted:
Me: So how do you feel about having a sister?
Nate: It’s okay mummy, I didn’t really want a brother, I just wanted my sister to have a brother!
You know, sometimes I look at him and think, you’re not 4 – you’re 14!
I hope that his enthusiasm continues after the baby is born, though I am sure it will be a shock for him how much of mummy’s time is taken up with the baby. Hopefully he will not get too jealous.
According to my mum, when I was 3 and my brother came along, I tried to flush him down the toilet, that’s how jealous I was! So yes I am a tiny little bit worried that Nate will be like me.
Does anyone have any sibling jealousy stories or to be more positive stories of siblings who instantly bonded?